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Boundaries in Relationships: The Fence with the Open Gate
You said yes to the third weekend in a row at your in-laws’, and somewhere on the drive over you stopped being able to hear your own wanting. Or you answered the “where are you, who are you with” text for the hundredth time because answering is easier than the conversation. Or you’ve become the […]
Signs of a Toxic Relationship: How to Tell, and What to Do Next
You’ve started rehearsing ordinary sentences before you say them. You screenshot conversations so you can check later whether you’re crazy, because the story of what happened keeps getting rewritten. Your friends have quietly stopped asking how things are going, or you’ve quietly stopped telling them. And on the good days, and there are still good […]
Fair Fighting Rules: How Strong Couples Argue
Every couple has a version of it. The dishes fight that’s somehow about respect. The calendar fight that’s somehow about whose time matters. It starts small, someone’s tone slips, someone’s eyes roll, and eleven minutes later you’re relitigating 2019 while the original dish sits unwashed. Afterward you can’t even say what the fight accomplished, except […]
Secure Attachment Style: What It Looks Like and How to Build It
Some people seem to do love without the static. They say what they need without rehearsing it in the shower first. Their partner leaves for a week of work travel and they miss them without unraveling. An argument flares on Tuesday and by Thursday it has left no mark. If you’ve only ever known relationships […]
Disorganized Attachment Style: When You Crave Closeness and Fear It Too
Disorganized attachment style explained with care: the push-pull signs, where it comes from, what it is not, and the honest path to earned security.
Anxious Attachment Style: What It Is, Why You Feel It, and How It Settles
Anxious attachment style explained by a therapist: the signs, where the alarm comes from, what it does in relationships, and how it settles into security.
Avoidant Attachment Style: What It Is, Where It Comes From, and How It Heals
Avoidant attachment style explained by a therapist: the signs in adults, where it comes from, what it does in relationships, and how it heals.
The Gottman Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling
Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling: a couples therapist explains the Gottman Four Horsemen, with real examples and the antidote for each.
Trauma Therapy: What It Is, How It Works, and What to Expect
Trauma therapy explained: what it is, how it works, the main types, what to expect in sessions, and how to find a trauma therapist who fits you.
The Anxious-Avoidant Relationship: Why You Chase, Why They Pull Away, and How to Break the Trap
One partner chases, the other withdraws. A St. Louis therapist explains the anxious-avoidant trap and how couples break the cycle and build security.
