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Relationship Therapy in St. Louis
The patterns in your relationships often have deeper roots than the surface fight. If something feels stuck, or you keep finding yourself in the same painful loop, you are not broken. There is a way through, and you do not have to figure it out alone.
Is This You?
The Same Fight, Different Outfit
You and your partner keep having the same fight, just dressed up in different outfits. You leave each conversation feeling more alone than before you started talking.
Familiar Patterns in Dating
You are noticing patterns in your dating life that feel familiar in a way you cannot quite name. The same kind of person, the same ending, the same ache.
Walking on Eggshells
You walk on eggshells in your own home. You have learned to read every shift in tone, every silence, every closing door, and you are exhausted from the vigilance.
Family Roles That Still Pull
You love your family, and being around them still leaves you flattened. The roles you played as a kid still pull at you, even when you swore you would never go back.
Wanting Closeness and Space
You want closeness. You also want to be left alone. Both feelings are real, and they are not the same as not knowing what you want.
How Relationship Therapy Helps
Slowing It Down
In relationship therapy, we slow things down enough to see what is actually happening underneath. The reactive moments, the shutdowns, the longing, the pulling away. All of it is information.
An Integrated Approach
Using the Gottman Method, Internal Family Systems, and attachment-informed approaches, we work with the relational patterns you carry into every connection. The work is not about assigning blame. It is about understanding the parts of you that learned to protect, perform, disappear, or fight, and giving them new options.
Individual or Together
Whether you come on your own to understand your own patterns, or with a partner to do this work together, the goal is the same. More honesty. More room to breathe. Real closeness that does not cost you yourself.
Couples Therapy or Relationship Therapy?
Couples Therapy
Couples therapy is for two partners doing the work in the room together. It is structured around your relationship as a unit, with a focus on communication, repair, and rebuilding trust. If that is where you are, the Couples Therapy page walks through what to expect.
Relationship Therapy
Relationship therapy is broader. It can be done individually to understand how you show up in connection, why certain patterns keep finding you, and what your nervous system has learned to expect from other people. It is also a good fit for pre-marital work, post-affair healing, family-of-origin patterns, and dating dynamics.
Not Sure Which?
If you are not sure which fits, reach out and we will figure it out together.
What to Expect
The First Session
The first session is a conversation. You tell me what is bringing you in, and I listen. There is no script you need to follow and no right way to start. If you do not know where to begin, that is a fine place to begin.
Moving at Your Pace
From there, we move at your pace. Some weeks will feel like real movement. Others will feel quieter, more like tending a small flame. Both are part of the work. I will not rush you, and I will not let us stay stuck either.
Relationship Therapy Across the St. Louis Area
My office is in Creve Coeur, just off Olive Boulevard, and I work with clients from across the St. Louis metro. Online relationship therapy is also available throughout Missouri if meeting from home fits your life better.
Neighborhoods I serve include:
Clayton · Kirkwood · Webster Groves · Chesterfield · Ladue · Town & Country · Creve Coeur · University City · Brentwood · Maplewood · Richmond Heights · Frontenac
